Good evening, the time has come to put this whole mess to rest. I wanted to update you to let you know that thanks to some incredible resourcefulness of a few very amazing individuals in?blogland, I now know who is responsible for the scathing comment.
Now I could easily expose them and suffice to say it would be a scandal and revelation that would rock the blog world, but I am going to, as I was taught, take the high road and be a lady.
You know who you are. You are not welcome here. DO NOT COME BACK TO MY BLOG.
That goes to you?and?your wanna be cronies. If you do not stay away then I will feel compelled and not hesitate to “call you out” ?faster than you can say Connecticut! And lets just say it won’t ?be good for business.?Now shoo, and go get yourself some therapy. You need it!! END OF STORY!
I also want to give a HUGE thanks to all my readers and followers. YOU ARE AMAZING!!!. My mailbox overflowed, and I do not use the word lightly with emails galore, and then the comments I believed may have reached a record high, I heard from readers I didn’t know I had! To say I was touched and deeply moved by your tremendous showing of support and love is an understatement. I know not all of you understood or agreed with my need to vent so publicly or waste an entire post on this “troll of a person” but ?I thank you for standing by me and offering countless messages of unwavering support. You have totally empowered me to go on and to be ?better and bigger than ever! Now lets get back to what we do best…talking and gabbing about beautiful interiors, great food, stylish living, and happy lives…shall we!
Yay! I can tell you are feeling better and I am really happy you got what you wanted out of this (knowing who it is). I am sure some satisfaction must have come out of it and now you know who to stay far away from, and hopefully she knows to stay far away from here, everyone made it obvious she is not welcome here. You provide so much happiness and warmth through your blog. I cannot tell you how much I personally have learned, seeing things through your eyes Tina, everything from great and affordable marble resources to where to get my daughter adorable monogrammed rainboots! You are like my “go to” friend, and I love you and your blog. Thank you and all the best over the Holiday week.
You so so so deserve this support. That crazy person is a nothing and a nobody. I am at least happy you know who they are, I am even a little bit curious. I have come across some very scary people in the blogworld (fake names, lawsuits and more). It definitely makes you take a second look at what we are doing here. But at the end of the day look at the amazing friendships you have forged through the experience. Well worth it. Keep doing exactly what you are doing, we are all LOVE IT!
So glad to hear it Tina! I am not surprised that you would get to the bottom of this. Hopefully this has a ripple effect through out blogland where nasty is not tolerated and the offender can risk their identity being exposed. Perfect punishment!
YAY! After reading all the comments last night I decided not to leave my words of encouragement to you. Tonight I happy for you, and that you can now go on with your ultra busy life. Best wishes to you!!!
I’m glad Stacy said it first: I so want to know who it is; and yes that is probably very immature!
No matter — I’m so happy for you that you got all the much-deserved well wishes! I think I speak for most of your readers when I say that you are living our fantasy (building a truly ‘enchanted home’) and we love reading about it and seeing all the photos! I’m relieved that nasty-commenter didn’t stop you from blogging!!
Glad you got some answers and some closure to this mess! I have to admit being more than a bit curious who was responsible, I guess I had thought it was just some random nutcase. But to think its another blogger…well that makes it even worse.
Are you still going to permit anonymous comments? I hope not, after all this aggravation. Time for you to move on to moving into your house and celebrating Thanksgiving. And kudos to you for not posting pics of your family or yourself.
Hey Tina my 13 year old says YAY he is glad the culprit(s) were found out. Plus he helped me figure out how to sign in with a name. Sorry I’m not techno savvy. So now lets get back to serenity which by the way if I could name your house that is what I would call it.
I am delighted to hear it, seems like you have a lot of friends and allies in this blogging world and with good reason. I have also found very little one does on the internet is totally iron clad, so its a lesson to every one, both good and bad that you must own what you say because you never know what might come back at you.
I am a huge fan of your blog, and so happy this is over for you. Look forward to this weeks posts!!
So enjoy your blog (guilty pleasure) and apreciate that you were able to address the points of the nasty post one by one. The postings sounded very bitter grapes or a good Pinot turned to vinegar…Good for you to take the High Road! and…Good for you to enjoy life and post your thoughts. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.
I read this morning your blog post and was completely shocked about your anonymous! As you know I have not commented since September 17 however I felt compelled to let you know.. that many of us know your heart! As the bible says, if God is for us than who can be against us. He has huge plans and a journey that was wrote long before today. Keep writing Sista, you have inspired many and have a God given talent!
A Big Southern Hug, Renee Granier Under Spanish Moss
So glad this was resolved. I could see it was heavily weighing on you and I really understood. I couldn’t blame you one bit, that would unnerve anyone. I loved your message above, you sure did take the high road but made it clear that person should not feel welcome back here, also so glad you are empowered to keep doing what you do so well. Your blog is a gift, truly Tina and you have touched more lives with it than you probably realize.
Amazing! You were able to find out who it was! I wonder if I know who this person is…..This person must feel like crap right now that she or they got exposed. Were they trying to play a game…I don’t get it. Anyway I’m glad you found out who it was and that we can all move on and enjoy your blog and everything you share with us. Your blog has always been a tremendous source of fun…I really couldn’t imagine anyone having to spend wasteful time commenting negatively. God is good! Amen!
YAY…fantastic news!! I’m so glad I decided to check in before calling it a night. Thank goodness your “detective” friends stepped in and tracked them down. I’m smiling from ear to ear right now and am so happy you can rest easy and we can all put this behind us. I hope this nut-job and her cronies are as ashamed and embarrassed as they should be and stop creeping around where they’re not wanted. It’s scary to think someone so demented and mean-spirited could even have cronies…ugh. Anyway, can’t wait to come back tomorrow to see what you’re up to. 🙂 Have a great night Tina!
Why would anyone ever say anything bad about you? You are one of the sweetest, most genuine bloggers out there, and I am so glad we have “met” through blogging! I don’t understand why people would have negativity in such a happy place, like your blog! 🙂
Yes, I understand that there is a way to check the sender’s IP address (which is unique for each computer). I am glad to hear that you finally found out who it was. I commend you for taking the high road but, part of me feels this person should be exposed. Hopefully, she/he has learned a lesson.
Thank goodness this can be put behind you so you can enjoy everything you deserve. I have been an avid follower of your blog and so enjoy every part of it. I look forward to everything you share in the building of your beautiful home to the very detail of carpet, colors, hardware and cabinet knobs! You are very gracious and it was appalling that someone was challenging you in ways that were completely inexcusable. I do hope they find the courage to get some help. Enjoy your week Tina and your Thanksgiving!
Tina so glad you have resolved this to your satisfaction, that is all that matters, because after all you were the one that was hurt by all of this. Keep doing what you have been doing all along. Entertaining and fascinating us!!! xo kathysue
So glad you have closure on this! And I feel somehow badly that it’s someone from my neck of the woods. Well – as they say – how low can you go – I guess you found out. And just in time for you to enjoy the holidays!
I am so sorry for what you have had to endure. It is beyond me why some people chose to be so mean. Glad you addressed it and can now move past it. Your blog is beautiful, and I enjoy reading each post. Thank you for your sharing.
Tina, what on Earth is going on???! No, wait don’t tell me. Every single one of us have a troll or two to deal with in blog land… You are doing the right thing by taking the High Road. Negative energy is like poison. I am so glad you are saying STOP!
You are wonderful on so many levels, Tina, try to take it as “ultimate flatter”. You are the best, and some people will have a hard time with that.
Hopping on a plane to California tomorrow morning. I will be thinking of you and will try to send a mail from the airport.
It’s always amazed me that people who leave crappy comments don’t know how easy it is to track the comment back to the individual who posted it. Even if the IP address doesn’t correctly list the commenter’s city, it does point to every other remark they’ve ever posted so a little bit of internet sleuthing quickly turns up all kinds of identifying details about the anonymous coward.
We hope to break ground by the first of the year and start building our dream house. I’m so happy to have your blog as a fun resource as we embark on this wonderful – and stressful – adventure!
Well I’m so glad that’s over! Not nosiness and immaturity (well, maybe just a little and that includes me, too), but human nature I think makes most of us what to know who would do such a thing. While reading the negative comment, it crossed my mind that this might be a “fellow” blogger. Perhaps this person thought that by trying to tear down your blog this would drive more people to their’s? I think you did take the high road. The only reason I would want this person to be exposed is that, sad to say, without some serious professional help I don’t think this person will stop doing this altogether. I do think they have learned their lesson with your blog and won’t try this again here. This person most likely has done something of this nature before and was able to get away with it. He/she probably never imagined that you would investigate and find out who they were. Let’s wish this person the best, and I say let’s get back to your beautiful blog posts. Have a wonderful Holiday!
Allow me to break down the dynamics of what REALLY happened here- This horrible person was a total wanna be in high school, one of those pathetic “hanger ons’ she gets lucky later in life, marries a wealthy man and lives the high life shes always wanted but shes still miserable and still always looking over her shoulder to see who else has what she wants or doesn’t have and at last she never really got into “the cool group” try as she might. Well…..you come along and become the “popular girl” almost instantly, on top of that you are building a dream home that might not only rival hers but likely surpassses it and this is not liking no not one bit. And you have the time to raise kids? Talk about recipes? Be funny too? She cannot stand another minute, she is consumed and enraged with jealousy just as she was in high school when she stared with envy at the “in girls” who didn’t let her into their inner circle. Same thing here just add 25 or 40 years. Tina- proud of you and how you handled this, you played this woman like a fiddle. Brilliant. You are my blogging hero.
My goodness how much I have missed! Haven’t had a chance to catch up on Bloggington for a few days and look what happens. There’s high roads and low roads to be sure but am not sure if keeping a bully’s identity secret is necessarily the high road though I understand you are trying your best to move on from the awful situation. It’s my feeling that your anonymous hater is quite likely our there bullying other poor bloggers in the same manner. You poor thing, what a dreadful experience. I for one love your house updates and couldn’t care less what time frame you are or are not working to or what charities you do or do not partake in. It’s YOUR blog, share with us what you like! And mercy me, inviting some rabid real life bloggers around to your place, forget about it, your hater is nuts! Hope you have a lovely week and I look forward to your next house update. Nx
This person whoever she might be and I am sure she is as a pyromanic goes back to see the fire he has set, has come back to see all these comments, is a nut job. The insinutations were all so outlandish but the ones about your “canned lights” the “time lines not matching up” but most galling was the “challenge” issued to you to have bloggers, people you do not know in your own home! That was so ludicrious I can only assume she was drunk or on something when she wrote that. Seriously who says that. Who thinks that? I am glad its over for your sake. I hope she stays away for good not only from you but others as well. Sick pup that one. You are one heck of a lady and my hats off to you.
I’ve been so behind in my blog visits, so I’m not sure what happened, but I am sorry it had to happen to you. You’ve been a lovely addition to Blogland and i’ve enjoyed every one of your posts, and so look forward to your visits to mine. You are a lady for taking the high road. Now onto bigger and better things ahead.
I am so darn curious….but I will leave it to rest. But BRAVO for those resourceful and savvy people who helped to find this person. Tina, you are so blessed for you have many people who love you and believe in YOU! ME INCLUDED! Now…carry on, for you have much to do before MOVING IN!!!!!!
I really enjoy your blog. I discovered it by accident about a month ago and come back for regular visits/updates. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Life is short.
Tina, It is very rare that I leave comments on blogs. Your subtlety was fantastic! I will stay away from her blog. Instead of trying to change you/your blog she really should be focusing on herself. I love watching your house become your home. It is lovely. Your sense of humor is warm and endearing. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Diane
It seems I missed all the blog bashing but I’m very pleased that you’ve found out who is behind the mean spirited comments. Sometimes people do nasty things to make themselves feel better, sad I know. The thing is, although you are building a house which is so out of the ordinary, your blog and your writing have always been comfortable for all to feel included. I will continue to enjoy the journey with you.
I understand your not wanting to “out” this person. But I would like to know who it is — mainly because I pray I am not a follower of that person’s blog. If I knew who it was, and found out I was a follower or reader, I’d drop them like a hot potato! Frankly, these people need to be called out and exposed so others may think twice before doing the same thing.
However, I respect your decision and I look forward to your home updates!
Tina, I am so sorry I was not online all weekend. I was not here for support. Larry and I were shopping all weekend for Thanksgiving guests.
You are one of the most kind people in blogland. I get so excited to read your posts and to see what is happening with you and with your new home. You are one of the FEW that encourage me on MY home…even my family won’t leave comments and that really hurts. They will call and ask what is going on with the house, which makes me sad when I LOVE blogging about it.
Anyway, Tina, I still need to read all of what happened. If you decided NOT to blog anymore, NOT to tell us what is going on with you and your home and your life, don’t you know that would be like losing a dear friend.
Darn people for being mean. Jealous, mean people.
Take care and know that I have you in my prayers. Hugs, Jan
oh- Somehow I missed this post yesterday in all the “new baby” business we have going on here-lol
I am SOO happy that you found out who was doing this and I am sorry that it is someone that a lot of us probably know from blogging. THAT is sad…very, very sad. I have found blogging to be a group of supportive, loving women and it is sad to think that there are “trolls” even among those we count as our own.
I am glad that someone has the savvy to figure out WHO DONE IT! I would be lost- absolutely lost!
Bless ya, darlin’- you know I love you and though I don’t always comment every time I come here you are a daily visit for me! xo Diana
Girl you are a better woman than I am. I would totally have posted her name! Of course that’s easy for me to say, I’m not the one who went through it. Glad this saga is over and looking forward to more of your delicious posts!! xoxo, Kim
Very interesting. Amazing how a lot of information can be learned within a few minutes and a click of a mouse button, savvy indeed. ANYONE who needs to post on a blog ANYTHING that is not truly authentic is a fraud! NO ONE should sit upon a throne and be a hypocrite! ANYONE who needs attention by portraying themselves to being anything other than who they genuinely are needs to seek help because they are obviously seeking adulation and are clearly a narcissist. Seems pretty insercure to me with all the booasting and self-promotion, in regards to business and charity work. I’m sure some of the readers see right thru this. As a fairly new reader in blogland all of this banter and negativity and untruths have really spolied it for me. In the future I will only look at the pictures, as that is the reason I was drawn to your blog in the first place, for inspiration. What a disappointment. It truly is very sad! My mother raised me to be true to who I am and to never LIE! It’s never a good policy to lie about anything, as it always comes back around. There are many lessons to be learned from this ordeal. Good luck with your lovely home & God Bless..
Tina, I caught up on all that has occured in the last few days and cannot believe that a fellow blogger would engage in such malicious behavior. To engage in this public attack as she did says that this is a very troubled individual likely disguised as “one of us”. I read the above comments and noticed something I want to point out which I think is very interesting.
Without saying specifically who it is ONE commenter above spoke specifically to a certain part of what you said in this post and seemed to take it out of context, which I think is really intersting because only that one person picked up on this and I am wondering if perhaps there might be some link or if this is your perpetrator.
It is worth reviewing and checking this twice, I could be onto something or I could be overthinking it, not sure which but I adore you and hate to see you hurt like you were. Rise above it, this person is not worth the agnst.
I love your blog, thanks so much for the engaging posts and the beautiful pics! 🙂
It must be such a relief that you have discovered the unkind commentator. Although I did not see the postings myself as they occurred, reading over what you re-posted from her comments has caused me to think back on one of the psychology texts that I was reading this past week (I’m in grad school). It appears that the comments here and there by others about this person needing “therapy” are not misplaced. The woman has some classic signs of narcissism & delusional disorders: unwillingness to admit wrongdoing on her part, incriminating others in order to elevate herself in her own eyes (even though she fails at making herself look better to others) obsessive, mixed delusions (grandeur & jealous types), etc.. These are serious issues that can point to schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. Of course, she could just be a jerk. 🙂 Her language causes me to think otherwise though, it is very unbalanced. While there is no excuse for anyone to make such unkind and untruthful statements, I do genuinely hope that she seeks some sort of help. . . she really appears to need it. This must be a deeply unhappy woman. Anyways, all that to say, thanks for not letting someone else’s delusions overwhelm you, and for keeping your cheerful tone. 🙂 Your blog makes me smile.
I have had to be away from blogland for the past couple weeks, and I see I have missed a lot! I tried to read quickly read through the last couple weeks posts to fill myself in.
First, I want to say: your entry tower floor is stunning! Fab, fab choice!
Secondly, I am so sorry you have been plagued by the dreadful, truly impoverished “someone” who apparently has little better to do with her own time than to be a house-envying busy-body. I hope she will be gone & leave you alone for good! I’ve said it before: these blogs we write are creative outlets of SELF-expression where we meet like-minded people. The non-like-minded should go elsewhere.
Wow, what a crazy exchange. I have never seen such nastiness on a design blog. If I were you I would totally out that anon commenter. Sometimes it’s hard to watch other people get the things we would like for ourselves. It is human nature to feel some jealously, but a good person tries to rise above the envy they feel. Your home is beautiful and you seem to have a beautiful life. I don’t imagine for a moment that your life is perfect, we all have our challenges we must deal with (some come in the form of nasty blog readers). I wonder if that comment was by the same person who said your boys were not allowed to pick out their bathroom decor. Seriously, who gives a s**t whether your boys picked out their fixtures. I hope this experience doesn’t stop you from sharing in the future. To be honest, if it turned out you were a fraud( I don’t actually believe that suggestion for a second), I wouldn’t even care, the pics you show are great and your blog is fun to read. I’ll keep coming back! Hope you’ll reveal the name of that anon person, maybe just in code so you’d have to really know blogs to figure it out, please….
So glad you found out. I only have one question…did this person actually build a 12,000 sq ft house with 11 bathrooms or whatever it was? I think not!!
Since I’ve been quite absent lately, I’m not sure what exactly happened, but I am so sorry and can’t imagine anyone being mean to you! Your comments always light up my day and I just love reading and ogling over your eye for all things lovely!
Wow, this is so interesting. I am wondering if at some point you will tell us who it is though I totally respect you if you feel its inappropriate though what that person said was so terrible. I have always thought of you like a class act, Tina and will respect your decision either way. Your blog just so you know however has touched many many lives. It just wouldn’t be the same with The Enchanted Home in our midst! I hope whoever did this is getting some kind of therapy, and I hope you will not give this a second thought. You have so many wonderful things to be happy about, don’t let this get you down. Keep up the wonderful job Tina.
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So happy you are able to put this behind you now!!! Looking forward to your next post!!
Yay! I can tell you are feeling better and I am really happy you got what you wanted out of this (knowing who it is). I am sure some satisfaction must have come out of it and now you know who to stay far away from, and hopefully she knows to stay far away from here, everyone made it obvious she is not welcome here.
You provide so much happiness and warmth through your blog. I cannot tell you how much I personally have learned, seeing things through your eyes Tina, everything from great and affordable marble resources to where to get my daughter adorable monogrammed rainboots! You are like my “go to” friend, and I love you and your blog.
Thank you and all the best over the Holiday week.
You so so so deserve this support. That crazy person is a nothing and a nobody. I am at least happy you know who they are, I am even a little bit curious. I have come across some very scary people in the blogworld (fake names, lawsuits and more). It definitely makes you take a second look at what we are doing here. But at the end of the day look at the amazing friendships you have forged through the experience. Well worth it. Keep doing exactly what you are doing, we are all LOVE IT!
So glad to hear it Tina! I am not surprised that you would get to the bottom of this. Hopefully this has a ripple effect through out blogland where nasty is not tolerated and the offender can risk their identity being exposed. Perfect punishment!
I sooooooo want to know who it is! That must be immature of me, sorry. But she would deserve it. You are a class act!
Stacy
YAY! After reading all the comments last night I decided not to leave my words of encouragement to you. Tonight I happy for you, and that you can now go on with your ultra busy life. Best wishes to you!!!
I’m so excited for you to move on, because this is supposed to be a SUPER HAPPY week for you!!
I only wish there could be repercussions to this person so we can all avoid their business and their nasty ways.
I can’t wait to be taken on the next step of your dream house journey~ moving in and decorating!
I’m glad Stacy said it first: I so want to know who it is; and yes that is probably very immature!
No matter — I’m so happy for you that you got all the much-deserved well wishes! I think I speak for most of your readers when I say that you are living our fantasy (building a truly ‘enchanted home’) and we love reading about it and seeing all the photos!
I’m relieved that nasty-commenter didn’t stop you from blogging!!
Hopefully this person will get some therapy, apparently she needs it badly. At least I hope she gets a life.
I agree, now on to the fun stuff. Hugs, Marty
Glad you got some answers and some closure to this mess! I have to admit being more than a bit curious who was responsible, I guess I had thought it was just some random nutcase. But to think its another blogger…well that makes it even worse.
Are you still going to permit anonymous comments? I hope not, after all this aggravation. Time for you to move on to moving into your house and celebrating Thanksgiving. And kudos to you for not posting pics of your family or yourself.
Good for you! 🙂
You go girl!
Amen, sista!
Hey Tina my 13 year old says YAY he is glad the culprit(s) were found out. Plus he helped me figure out how to sign in with a name. Sorry I’m not techno savvy. So now lets get back to serenity which by the way if I could name your house that is what I would call it.
I am delighted to hear it, seems like you have a lot of friends and allies in this blogging world and with good reason. I have also found very little one does on the internet is totally iron clad, so its a lesson to every one, both good and bad that you must own what you say because you never know what might come back at you.
I am a huge fan of your blog, and so happy this is over for you. Look forward to this weeks posts!!
So enjoy your blog (guilty pleasure) and apreciate that you were able to address the points of the nasty post one by one. The postings sounded very bitter grapes or a good Pinot turned to vinegar…Good for you to take the High Road! and…Good for you to enjoy life and post your thoughts. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.
Dear Darling Tina,
I read this morning your blog post and was completely shocked about your anonymous! As you know I have not commented since September 17 however I felt compelled to let you know.. that many of us know your heart! As the bible says, if God is for us than who can be against us. He has huge plans and a journey that was wrote long before today. Keep writing Sista, you have inspired many and have a God given talent!
A Big Southern Hug,
Renee Granier
Under Spanish Moss
Woo hoo Tina, glad this is over for you. Now you can get back to business.
Emily
The French Hutch
So glad this was resolved. I could see it was heavily weighing on you and I really understood. I couldn’t blame you one bit, that would unnerve anyone.
I loved your message above, you sure did take the high road but made it clear that person should not feel welcome back here, also so glad you are empowered to keep doing what you do so well. Your blog is a gift, truly Tina and you have touched more lives with it than you probably realize.
So glad your ordeal is over (or at least you know who it is now!)!
Kori
Amazing! You were able to find out who it was! I wonder if I know who this person is…..This person must feel like crap right now that she or they got exposed. Were they trying to play a game…I don’t get it. Anyway I’m glad you found out who it was and that we can all move on and enjoy your blog and everything you share with us. Your blog has always been a tremendous source of fun…I really couldn’t imagine anyone having to spend wasteful time commenting negatively. God is good! Amen!
YAY…fantastic news!! I’m so glad I decided to check in before calling it a night. Thank goodness your “detective” friends stepped in and tracked them down. I’m smiling from ear to ear right now and am so happy you can rest easy and we can all put this behind us. I hope this nut-job and her cronies are as ashamed and embarrassed as they should be and stop creeping around where they’re not wanted. It’s scary to think someone so demented and mean-spirited could even have cronies…ugh. Anyway, can’t wait to come back tomorrow to see what you’re up to. 🙂 Have a great night Tina!
Why would anyone ever say anything bad about you? You are one of the sweetest, most genuine bloggers out there, and I am so glad we have “met” through blogging! I don’t understand why people would have negativity in such a happy place, like your blog! 🙂
Yes, I understand that there is a way to check the sender’s IP address (which is unique for each computer). I am glad to hear that you finally found out who it was. I commend you for taking the high road but, part of me feels this person should be exposed. Hopefully, she/he has learned a lesson.
Dear Tina,
What an ordeal. I do hope this is all in the past now, and I wish you and your family a fabulous Thanksgiving!
xoxo,
– Irina
Thank goodness this can be put behind you so you can enjoy everything you deserve. I have been an avid follower of your blog and so enjoy every part of it. I look forward to everything you share in the building of your beautiful home to the very detail of carpet, colors, hardware and cabinet knobs! You are very gracious and it was appalling that someone was challenging you in ways that were completely inexcusable. I do hope they find the courage to get some help. Enjoy your week Tina and your Thanksgiving!
Tina so glad you have resolved this to your satisfaction, that is all that matters, because after all you were the one that was hurt by all of this. Keep doing what you have been doing all along. Entertaining and fascinating us!!! xo kathysue
Yay!
So glad you have closure on this! And I feel somehow badly that it’s someone from my neck of the woods. Well – as they say – how low can you go – I guess you found out. And just in time for you to enjoy the holidays!
So amazing that you were able to find out who it was! Glad it’s all behind you. No one deserves to be bullied in blogland or anywhere! xo
Incredible…I still don’t understand mean people. Glad you stood up to them!
xo
Sharon
Glad it’s taken care of. You find out just about anything on the internet. No one is invisible!
I am so sorry for what you have had to endure. It is beyond me why some people chose to be so mean. Glad you addressed it and can now move past it. Your blog is beautiful, and I enjoy reading each post. Thank you for your sharing.
Tina, what on Earth is going on???! No, wait don’t tell me. Every single one of us have a troll or two to deal with in blog land… You are doing the right thing by taking the High Road. Negative energy is like poison. I am so glad you are saying STOP!
You are wonderful on so many levels, Tina, try to take it as “ultimate flatter”. You are the best, and some people will have a hard time with that.
Hopping on a plane to California tomorrow morning. I will be thinking of you and will try to send a mail from the airport.
Love to you, Mon
It’s always amazed me that people who leave crappy comments don’t know how easy it is to track the comment back to the individual who posted it. Even if the IP address doesn’t correctly list the commenter’s city, it does point to every other remark they’ve ever posted so a little bit of internet sleuthing quickly turns up all kinds of identifying details about the anonymous coward.
We hope to break ground by the first of the year and start building our dream house. I’m so happy to have your blog as a fun resource as we embark on this wonderful – and stressful – adventure!
Donna
Our Blog: Double Happiness!
sending sunshine and good vibes to you just now, tina. feel free to to vent with me anytime!
michele
Well I’m so glad that’s over! Not nosiness and immaturity (well, maybe just a little and that includes me, too), but human nature I think makes most of us what to know who would do such a thing. While reading the negative comment, it crossed my mind that this might be a “fellow” blogger. Perhaps this person thought that by trying to tear down your blog this would drive more people to their’s? I think you did take the high road. The only reason I would want this person to be exposed is that, sad to say, without some serious professional help I don’t think this person will stop doing this altogether. I do think they have learned their lesson with your blog and won’t try this again here. This person most likely has done something of this nature before and was able to get away with it. He/she probably never imagined that you would investigate and find out who they were. Let’s wish this person the best, and I say let’s get back to your beautiful blog posts. Have a wonderful Holiday!
As I say to my kids: HOLY MACARONI! Glad it’s all in the past now… 🙂
Touche!!!!
KL
Allow me to break down the dynamics of what REALLY happened here-
This horrible person was a total wanna be in high school, one of those pathetic “hanger ons’ she gets lucky later in life, marries a wealthy man and lives the high life shes always wanted but shes still miserable and still always looking over her shoulder to see who else has what she wants or doesn’t have and at last she never really got into “the cool group” try as she might.
Well…..you come along and become the “popular girl” almost instantly, on top of that you are building a dream home that might not only rival hers but likely surpassses it and this is not liking no not one bit. And you have the time to raise kids? Talk about recipes? Be funny too? She cannot stand another minute, she is consumed and enraged with jealousy just as she was in high school when she stared with envy at the “in girls” who didn’t let her into their inner circle. Same thing here just add 25 or 40 years.
Tina- proud of you and how you handled this, you played this woman like a fiddle. Brilliant. You are my blogging hero.
I measure a person’s wealth by their attitude and generosity, not by their possessions and money……..You are indeed a wealthy woman.
You go girl!!
My goodness how much I have missed! Haven’t had a chance to catch up on Bloggington for a few days and look what happens. There’s high roads and low roads to be sure but am not sure if keeping a bully’s identity secret is necessarily the high road though I understand you are trying your best to move on from the awful situation. It’s my feeling that your anonymous hater is quite likely our there bullying other poor bloggers in the same manner. You poor thing, what a dreadful experience. I for one love your house updates and couldn’t care less what time frame you are or are not working to or what charities you do or do not partake in. It’s YOUR blog, share with us what you like! And mercy me, inviting some rabid real life bloggers around to your place, forget about it, your hater is nuts! Hope you have a lovely week and I look forward to your next house update. Nx
This person whoever she might be and I am sure she is as a pyromanic goes back to see the fire he has set, has come back to see all these comments, is a nut job. The insinutations were all so outlandish but the ones about your “canned lights” the “time lines not matching up” but most galling was the “challenge” issued to you to have bloggers, people you do not know in your own home!
That was so ludicrious I can only assume she was drunk or on something when she wrote that. Seriously who says that. Who thinks that? I am glad its over for your sake. I hope she stays away for good not only from you but others as well. Sick pup that one. You are one heck of a lady and my hats off to you.
AMEN TO THAT TINA. GLAD YOU ARE OVER THIS CRAZINESS. YOU ARE INCREDIBLE AND A INSPIRATION TO ALL.
Bonjour TIna,
I’ve been so behind in my blog visits, so I’m not sure what happened, but I am sorry it had to happen to you. You’ve been a lovely addition to Blogland and i’ve enjoyed every one of your posts, and so look forward to your visits to mine.
You are a lady for taking the high road. Now onto bigger and better things ahead.
Bonne semaine!
Mimi
AWESOME! AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so darn curious….but I will leave it to rest. But BRAVO for those resourceful and savvy people who helped to find this person. Tina, you are so blessed for you have many people who love you and believe in YOU! ME INCLUDED! Now…carry on, for you have much to do before MOVING IN!!!!!!
HUGS AND LOVE! Anita
I really enjoy your blog. I discovered it by accident about a month ago and come back for regular visits/updates. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Life is short.
Tina,
It is very rare that I leave comments on blogs. Your subtlety was fantastic!
I will stay away from her blog. Instead of trying to change you/your blog she really should be focusing on herself.
I love watching your house become your home. It is lovely. Your sense of humor is warm and endearing. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.
Diane
It seems I missed all the blog bashing but I’m very pleased that you’ve found out who is behind the mean spirited comments. Sometimes people do nasty things to make themselves feel better, sad I know. The thing is, although you are building a house which is so out of the ordinary, your blog and your writing have always been comfortable for all to feel included. I will continue to enjoy the journey with you.
You have got to love the blog world we stand by our own! So glad it’s over and life can return to our happy design world!
I understand your not wanting to “out” this person. But I would like to know who it is — mainly because I pray I am not a follower of that person’s blog. If I knew who it was, and found out I was a follower or reader, I’d drop them like a hot potato! Frankly, these people need to be called out and exposed so others may think twice before doing the same thing.
However, I respect your decision and I look forward to your home updates!
Tina, I am so sorry I was not online all weekend. I was not here for support. Larry and I were shopping all weekend for Thanksgiving guests.
You are one of the most kind people in blogland. I get so excited to read your posts and to see what is happening with you and with your new home. You are one of the FEW that encourage me on MY home…even my family won’t leave comments and that really hurts. They will call and ask what is going on with the house, which makes me sad when I LOVE blogging about it.
Anyway, Tina, I still need to read all of what happened. If you decided NOT to blog anymore, NOT to tell us what is going on with you and your home and your life, don’t you know that would be like losing a dear friend.
Darn people for being mean. Jealous, mean people.
Take care and know that I have you in my prayers. Hugs, Jan
oh- Somehow I missed this post yesterday in all the “new baby” business we have going on here-lol
I am SOO happy that you found out who was doing this and I am sorry that it is someone that a lot of us probably know from blogging. THAT is sad…very, very sad. I have found blogging to be a group of supportive, loving women and it is sad to think that there are “trolls” even among those we count as our own.
I am glad that someone has the savvy to figure out WHO DONE IT! I would be lost- absolutely lost!
Bless ya, darlin’- you know I love you and though I don’t always comment every time I come here you are a daily visit for me! xo Diana
Girl you are a better woman than I am. I would totally have posted her name! Of course that’s easy for me to say, I’m not the one who went through it. Glad this saga is over and looking forward to more of your delicious posts!!
xoxo,
Kim
Sometimes you just need to vent! Clearly, your critic doesn’t follow the “if you have nothing nice to say; don’t say anything at all” rule.
Very interesting. Amazing how a lot of information can be learned within a few minutes and a click of a mouse button, savvy indeed. ANYONE who needs to post on a blog ANYTHING that is not truly authentic is a fraud! NO ONE should sit upon a throne and be a hypocrite! ANYONE who needs attention by portraying themselves to being anything other than who they genuinely are needs to seek help because they are obviously seeking adulation and are clearly a narcissist. Seems pretty insercure to me with all the booasting and self-promotion, in regards to business and charity work. I’m sure some of the readers see right thru this. As a fairly new reader in blogland all of this banter and negativity and untruths have really spolied it for me. In the future I will only look at the pictures, as that is the reason I was drawn to your blog in the first place, for inspiration. What a disappointment. It truly is very sad! My mother raised me to be true to who I am and to never LIE! It’s never a good policy to lie about anything, as it always comes back around. There are many lessons to be learned from this ordeal. Good luck with your lovely home & God Bless..
Tina, I caught up on all that has occured in the last few days and cannot believe that a fellow blogger would engage in such malicious behavior. To engage in this public attack as she did says that this is a very troubled individual likely disguised as “one of us”.
I read the above comments and noticed something I want to point out which I think is very interesting.
Without saying specifically who it is ONE commenter above spoke specifically to a certain part of what you said in this post and seemed to take it out of context, which I think is really intersting because only that one person picked up on this and I am wondering if perhaps there might be some link or if this is your perpetrator.
It is worth reviewing and checking this twice, I could be onto something or I could be overthinking it, not sure which but I adore you and hate to see you hurt like you were. Rise above it, this person is not worth the agnst.
Tina, l’m so glad that you can now put this behind you.
The amount of caring support you have received is a measure of how much respect and affection we all have for you, YAY !
I love your blog, thanks so much for the engaging posts and the beautiful pics! 🙂
It must be such a relief that you have discovered the unkind commentator. Although I did not see the postings myself as they occurred, reading over what you re-posted from her comments has caused me to think back on one of the psychology texts that I was reading this past week (I’m in grad school). It appears that the comments here and there by others about this person needing “therapy” are not misplaced. The woman has some classic signs of narcissism & delusional disorders: unwillingness to admit wrongdoing on her part, incriminating others in order to elevate herself in her own eyes (even though she fails at making herself look better to others) obsessive, mixed delusions (grandeur & jealous types), etc.. These are serious issues that can point to schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. Of course, she could just be a jerk. 🙂 Her language causes me to think otherwise though, it is very unbalanced. While there is no excuse for anyone to make such unkind and untruthful statements, I do genuinely hope that she seeks some sort of help. . . she really appears to need it. This must be a deeply unhappy woman.
Anyways, all that to say, thanks for not letting someone else’s delusions overwhelm you, and for keeping your cheerful tone. 🙂 Your blog makes me smile.
Tina,
I have had to be away from blogland for the past couple weeks, and I see I have missed a lot! I tried to read quickly read through the last couple weeks posts to fill myself in.
First, I want to say: your entry tower floor is stunning! Fab, fab choice!
Secondly, I am so sorry you have been plagued by the dreadful, truly impoverished “someone” who apparently has little better to do with her own time than to be a house-envying busy-body. I hope she will be gone & leave you alone for good! I’ve said it before: these blogs we write are creative outlets of SELF-expression where we meet like-minded people. The non-like-minded should go elsewhere.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family!
-Keri
Wow, what a crazy exchange. I have never seen such nastiness on a design blog. If I were you I would totally out that anon commenter. Sometimes it’s hard to watch other people get the things we would like for ourselves. It is human nature to feel some jealously, but a good person tries to rise above the envy they feel. Your home is beautiful and you seem to have a beautiful life. I don’t imagine for a moment that your life is perfect, we all have our challenges we must deal with (some come in the form of nasty blog readers). I wonder if that comment was by the same person who said your boys were not allowed to pick out their bathroom decor. Seriously, who gives a s**t whether your boys picked out their fixtures. I hope this experience doesn’t stop you from sharing in the future. To be honest, if it turned out you were a fraud( I don’t actually believe that suggestion for a second), I wouldn’t even care, the pics you show are great and your blog is fun to read. I’ll keep coming back! Hope you’ll reveal the name of that anon person, maybe just in code so you’d have to really know blogs to figure it out, please….
So glad you found out. I only have one question…did this person actually build a 12,000 sq ft house with 11 bathrooms or whatever it was? I think not!!
Since I’ve been quite absent lately, I’m not sure what exactly happened, but I am so sorry and can’t imagine anyone being mean to you! Your comments always light up my day and I just love reading and ogling over your eye for all things lovely!
Wow, this is so interesting. I am wondering if at some point you will tell us who it is though I totally respect you if you feel its inappropriate though what that person said was so terrible. I have always thought of you like a class act, Tina and will respect your decision either way.
Your blog just so you know however has touched many many lives. It just wouldn’t be the same with The Enchanted Home in our midst!
I hope whoever did this is getting some kind of therapy, and I hope you will not give this a second thought. You have so many wonderful things to be happy about, don’t let this get you down. Keep up the wonderful job Tina.