{"id":133459,"date":"2025-09-18T07:06:04","date_gmt":"2025-09-18T12:06:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/?p=133459"},"modified":"2025-09-18T07:13:50","modified_gmt":"2025-09-18T12:13:50","slug":"lets-talk-11","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/2025\/09\/18\/lets-talk-11\/","title":{"rendered":"Let’s talk!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Good morning friends,<\/p>\n

I hope everyone is having a wonderful week so far. I really enjoy these Let’s Talk posts where we can chat about different aspects of life, and today I wanted to touch on something I am curious how many of you will relate to\u2014our social batteries.<\/p>\n

For most of my 20s through my late 30s, I was the very definition of a social butterfly. I thrived on the energy of being out and about\u2014so much so that people were often surprised to catch me at home (yes, back in the landline days when phones actually rang with real people on the other end!). I vividly remember my 35th birthday luncheon with at least 30 friends, followed by a night out with more friends. That was me\u2014I loved it, and it gave me energy. Today, 25 years later, that sounds positively draining, haha.<\/p>\n

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But somewhere in my mid-40s, and especially once I hit 50, things began to shift. Friendships became more about quality over quantity\u2014a phrase my mother and mother-in-law both used often, and one I\u2019ve passed along to my own children. My circle grew smaller, but deeper. I also changed as a person, becoming more staunch in my beliefs and morals and that on it’s own, shaped my social circle.\u00a0 At the same time, starting and growing my business changed the balance of my life tremendously. No longer were my days spent playing tennis, and going to lunch. Weekdays were consumed by work, and socializing was usually reserved for weekends.<\/p>\n

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This past summer really tested my social battery. We had three weddings, two engagement parties, three bridal showers, multiple milestone birthdays (including my husband\u2019s, Philip\u2019s, and two dear friends\u2019), and more dinners and obligations than I can count. We seemed to be away more than we were home. While each event was truly enjoyable and memorable,\u00a0 I found myself looking at my calendar with anxiety.<\/p>\n

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By the time we returned from Boston (after being in Newport just the week before), I felt completely drained. There was one more stop on this seemingly nonstop calendar, which was a final trip to Florida to see my son for his birthday and visit friends.\u00a0 I remember being on the plane coming home from that trip, and practically cheered when we came home, I was so happy to\u00a0 reclaim my own little comforts\u2014my bed, my desk, my quiet space. Irony was coming home to two save the dates for June weddings:) Guess June will be a busy start to the summer! But at least I have a big time buffer to prepare!<\/p>\n

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I realized that at this stage of life, I sometimes crave stillness more than excitement. Heaven on a plate, for me, looks like a full day sequestered at home with absolutely nothing to do. The few places and activities that truly recharge me now are simple: Palmetto Bluff, being by the ocean, or being in my garden (not this year) but when we move hopefully next! So any opportunity i have to go to PB or a beach to recharge, I eagerly look forward to.<\/p>\n

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One of the biggest lessons I\u2019ve learned is that it\u2019s okay to say no. When an invitation came for a September wedding in Texas, after considering tying it in with a trip to see friends in Dallas, I declined\u2014knowing I needed a month with as few obligations as possible. That was a first for me, and it felt empowering. And I am so happy I did.<\/p>\n

I love my friends and family dearly and treasure time with those closest to me, but I\u2019m less patient with small talk or obligatory socializing. I thoght about this the other day when I was playing on my pickleball league and at the end, people tend to linger a few minutes and make small talk. While I am always polite, I just had not interest in it.<\/p>\n

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It might have been just that day but in general, I go to play (and after 2 hours) I am utterly exhausted, but sitting around talking to people I don’t know well just didn’t interest me. I don’t think its wrong or right. (Sidenote- I won my league that day, which was so exciting)! Between running my business and helping with Philip, my free hours are precious. Sometimes I want to spend them in my little cocoon, and other times with the people who mean the most. I also have recognized that I need and cherish my solo time here and there. I like my own company and sometimes crave just being alone. An example- I never enjoy shopping with people, I am super quick when it comes to going in and scanning a store so get impatient when I feel like I can’t move at the pace I want to. Solo shopping for me!<\/p>\n

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Life really is about balance, and I\u2019m finally learning to listen to my own limits. Protecting your peace is not selfish\u2014it\u2019s necessary. I think we become more emboldened to listen to our inner voices as we get older. At least that’s been the case with me. Thankfully, my husband is for the most part right in step with how I feel. We both are happy the endless schedule of summer is behind us and though we have things going on in the next few months, its nothing like the pace we kept up all summer.\u00a0 Learning to say no or limiting yourself to things, recognizing your own personal threshold is so important. I am a work in progress but getting there!<\/p>\n

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Thanks for stopping in. I can’t wait to hear what you have to say on the matter, if this is relatable or not. If it is, would love to know how you handle recognizing the limits of your own social battery and knowing when you need to bow out. Or maybe you are the way I was at 30, the more socialization the better! Either way, its always fun to hear from you and what you have to say on the matter. Wishing you a great day. Until next time….<\/p>\n

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