{"id":134238,"date":"2025-11-07T09:46:36","date_gmt":"2025-11-07T14:46:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/?p=134238"},"modified":"2025-11-07T09:53:30","modified_gmt":"2025-11-07T14:53:30","slug":"lets-talk-16","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/2025\/11\/07\/lets-talk-16\/","title":{"rendered":"Let&#8217;s talk&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>**Always include random pictures to break up the text, in this case using holiday, because..why not!**<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Hi everyone! I\u2019m so glad you enjoyed my hotel-rooms post\u2014your comments were fantastic and honestly, I was surprised by how many of you felt exactly the same way. It was great validation for all my peeves!\u00a0 It definitely deserves a part two (coming soon), where we\u2019ll dissect specific hotel brands and share favorites. Click here if you missed that one.<\/p>\n<p>Today, a related topic: restaurants. We go out to socialize and enjoy the experience of being out, but if I\u2019m honest, our best meals are almost always at home (we both agree). I know exactly what goes into our food, and there\u2019s real peace of mind in that. So, here are my hangups with regard to restaurants-<\/p>\n<p><strong>Cleanliness Is Non-Negotiable Numero uno:<\/strong> cleanliness. If I walk in and it doesn\u2019t feel clean or well cared for, I\u2019m out. And yes, I have a thing about wall-to-wall carpeting in restaurants. Cozy in a bedroom? Absolutely. But in a place that serves food all day, every day, I want a surface\u2014wood or tile\u2014that can be truly sanitized. (Strong opinion, I know\u2014but that\u2019s mine!)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-134239\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fd048-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"575\" height=\"766\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fd048-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fd048-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fd048-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fd048.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 575px) 100vw, 575px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Side note for NYC\/Tri-State friends<\/strong>: If you\u2019re heading into New York City for dinner, the letter grade in the window matters\u2014a lot. Restaurants are graded A, B, C, or GP (Grade Pending). Personally, I only dine at Grade A spots. This isn\u2019t about formality\u2014an A applies just as much to a tiny hole-in-the-wall pizza joint as it does to fine dining. It\u2019s simply about standards and safety.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-134241\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fda42-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"559\" height=\"745\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fda42-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fda42-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fda42-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fda42.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 559px) 100vw, 559px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>The Table Matters<\/strong> If we\u2019re going somewhere \u201chigh-end,\u201d I want a white tablecloth (and amazed at how many are increasingly forgoing this tradition). A freshly pressed, crisp one. I do not want to detect even a hint of stickiness on a bare tabletop at that price point. And while we\u2019re at it, a simple bud vase with a few fresh flowers feels like such an easy touch of grace and maybe add a few votives while you are at it. Napkins should be whiteIf I\u2019m wearing light colors, a dark napkin that sheds dye (hello, navy or black \u201cshadow\u201d on a dress) is a hard no. White napkins are classic, clean, and you can see they\u2019re clean. In my book, every fine restaurant should default to white.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-134240\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6s015-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"567\" height=\"756\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6s015-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6s015-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6s015-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6s015.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 567px) 100vw, 567px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Service &amp; Timing<\/strong> Most fine restaurants get this right, but not all:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Greet promptly with water (and perhaps bread). And <em>please<\/em> pay attention to when we need water refills, we shouldn&#8217;t have to go on a scavenger hunt for water!<\/li>\n<li>Pace is important- give just enough time for a drink order, then the food order\u2014no rushing, no disappearing act.<\/li>\n<li>Course timing matters. Appetizers (and entr\u00e9es) should arrive for <strong>everyone at the same time<\/strong> in a proper restaurant. Period. Makes me crazy when half of us have our dinner and the other half are waiting!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-134243\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_aa6021-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"853\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_aa6021-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_aa6021-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_aa6021-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_aa6021.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Please don\u2019t clear plates early<\/strong> It\u2019s Restaurant Etiquette 101: don\u2019t start clearing when some guests are still eating. It feels rushed and\u2014frankly\u2014rude. I\u2019ve (very politely) said, \u201cCould we keep the plates until everyone\u2019s finished, please?\u201d That should be a given at any high-end spot.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Words matter<\/strong> A pet peeve I inherited from my mother: \u201cAre you still working on that?\u201d She loathed that phrase\u2014and now I do, too. It sounds like we\u2019re at a feeding trough. How about, \u201cAre you finished with your meal?\u201d Much nicer, and far more elegant.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-134244\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMGdf_6370-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"853\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMGdf_6370-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMGdf_6370-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMGdf_6370-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMGdf_6370.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lighting Sets the Mood <\/strong>We went to a pop-up by a renowned sushi chef\u2014food was amazing; lighting, abysmal. Harsh, overhead glare is not ambience. I love warm, layered light\u2014little rechargeable lamps or votives on tables\u2014and I wish every restaurant hired a proper lighting consultant. It changes everything such an important part of the entire dining experience!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Chairs Count too<\/strong> Chairs should invite you to linger. Nothing kills a beautiful meal faster than an uncomfortable seat\u2014wrong pitch, itchy fabric, too low or too high for the table. Comfort is part of hospitality. And if a chair is dirty&#8230;I am out of there!<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-134246\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fdasafds041-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"853\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fdasafds041-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fdasafds041-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fdasafds041-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_6fdasafds041.jpg 1402w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>When to (Politely) Speak Up <\/strong>At a lovely French restaurant, one lobster appetizer missed the mark\u2014chewy, not hot, and $70 to boot. I quietly told the server (after noting how delicious everything else was). The manager thanked us and later sent a few complimentary desserts\u2014gracious and appreciated. I didn\u2019t speak up to get something comped; I did it because feedback helps them keep standards high and frankly it was just bad. My husband is not one to do that ever so I guess I do it for both of us:)<\/p>\n<p>If food arrives warm or cold. That is non negotiable! If you order steak say medium and it comes bright pink, then by all means I would speak up. If they bring the wrong dish, I am not going to sit there and eat the chefs mistake..I will speak up (politely of course)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-134245\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fdsaa43-768x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"853\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fdsaa43-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fdsaa43-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fdsaa43-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/IMG_60fdsaa43.jpg 1512w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I am so curious to hear what (if) you agree with any or all of these. Or if there other peeves that are non negotiable for you.\u00a0 Most of these apply to everything from casual to fine dining in my book (but don&#8217;t expect white tablecloths, flowers, etc..) in a casual spot. We have a local casual Italian place that we love, great food, prompt and efficient service and clean! So I think most of the same principles should apply across the board.\u00a0 Thanks for stopping in. Wishing everyone a great day!<\/p>\n<p>P.S. Industry friends, weigh in! If you\u2019re in the restaurant or food business, please, please enlighten us on my quirks\u2014what am I getting right, what am I missing, and what trade-offs should diners understand behind the scenes?<\/p>\n<p>P.S. Part two of the hotel-rooms discussion is coming soon\u2014where we\u2019ll dig into specific chains and share favorites. Stay tuned!<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/2025\/11\/06\/lets-talk-wallpaper-spoonflower\/\"><em>Also if you missed our fabulous on all things wallpaper yesterday, click here<\/em><\/a><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">_____________________________________________________<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #345e0d;\">Our chinoiserie tree collar presale is on and we are almost sold out of a few of the colors! We are only getting in one shipment this holiday season, so get your order in today. <\/span><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/enchantedhome.com\/collections\/new-arrivals\"><em><span style=\"color: #345e0d;\">Click here<\/span><\/em><\/a><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/enchantedhome.com\/collections\/new-arrivals\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-134222 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/DEAL-OF-HE-DAY-Our-favuous-square-porelain-planter-iwth-plates-almost-40_-off-155.00-TODAY-ONLY-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"640\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/DEAL-OF-HE-DAY-Our-favuous-square-porelain-planter-iwth-plates-almost-40_-off-155.00-TODAY-ONLY-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/DEAL-OF-HE-DAY-Our-favuous-square-porelain-planter-iwth-plates-almost-40_-off-155.00-TODAY-ONLY-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/DEAL-OF-HE-DAY-Our-favuous-square-porelain-planter-iwth-plates-almost-40_-off-155.00-TODAY-ONLY-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/DEAL-OF-HE-DAY-Our-favuous-square-porelain-planter-iwth-plates-almost-40_-off-155.00-TODAY-ONLY-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/DEAL-OF-HE-DAY-Our-favuous-square-porelain-planter-iwth-plates-almost-40_-off-155.00-TODAY-ONLY-282x282.jpg 282w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/DEAL-OF-HE-DAY-Our-favuous-square-porelain-planter-iwth-plates-almost-40_-off-155.00-TODAY-ONLY.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-115369\" src=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/MIMIMIMI.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"692\" height=\"692\" srcset=\"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/MIMIMIMI.png 692w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/MIMIMIMI-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/MIMIMIMI-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/MIMIMIMI-282x282.png 282w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 692px) 100vw, 692px\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>**Always include random pictures to break up the text, in this case using holiday, because..why not!** Hi everyone! I\u2019m so glad you enjoyed my hotel-rooms post\u2014your comments were fantastic and honestly, I was surprised by how many of you felt exactly the same way. It was great validation for all my peeves!\u00a0 It definitely deserves [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":134239,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":true,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134238"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=134238"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134238\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":134307,"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134238\/revisions\/134307"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/134239"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=134238"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=134238"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.enchantedhome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=134238"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}